Who Are You Playing Chess With?

During a conversation I had recently, the game of chess became one of our topics. I have never learned to play chess, nor is it on my proverbial bucket list. It’s a little too slow paced for me. But my conversation partner enjoys it.

He shared with me how, when he was first learning to play, he would frequently lose. But he acquired a new skill each time. This kept the game exciting for him and he felt encouraged even though he lost to his opponent. He was inspired to take what he learned and try again. In time, however, he figured out short cuts that helped him win and to win frequently.

Did chess remain an exciting game for him? Was the frequent winning energizing for him?

In a word, no. He got bored.

When he started to play again it was with opponents he couldn’t easily beat. And once again, he became inspired to improve and better his skills.

There is something important for all of us to learn from his experience.

The only way you will learn, grow, and become better at anything is to spend time around others who are more skilled than you are. Intentionally put yourself in situations where you will have the opportunity to develop your own skills, talents, and abilities.

Sometimes I do this informally such as a conversation with the fitness instructors where I work out, the nutrition consultants at the health store I frequent, or other business owners in my networking groups.

Other times, it’s a formal relationship such as the business coaches I’ve worked with, the branding consultant who helped me shift to a new business name and logo, or my chiropractor when I’m experiencing back, neck, or shoulder pain.

Whether you choose an informal or formal relationship, be sure it is with someone who is an expert in the area you want to improve.

Otherwise, you might get bored and leave the game. And no one wins.

Especially you.