The Gift of Receiving

Christmas is often celebrated as a season of giving, but by its very nature, it’s also a season of receiving. Yet, for many, receiving can feel uncomfortable—maybe even awkward. I’ve had several conversations recently with people who love to give but admit they struggle with being on the receiving end.

It’s not about being ungrateful; it’s about being uncomfortable in the role of a receiver.

These conversations remind me of an experience years ago when a wise man asked me, “Do you feel more joy when you give or when you receive?” Without hesitation, I answered, “Oh, definitely when I give.”

He smiled and replied, “Others feel that same joy when they give to you. That’s why it’s so important to receive with joy—it allows the giver to experience the fulfillment of their gift. If you don’t, they may feel rejection or disappointment.”

That hit me hard. At the time, I was considering turning down a gift my dad wanted to give me. This man’s words made me pause, and I realized how my discomfort could unintentionally rob my dad of the joy of giving. I chose to accept the gift—with much gratitude.

Another memory comes to mind, this one about a time I was the giver. I had picked out some books for a friend, feeling confident she would love them. I was excited about my gift, but the real joy came when I saw her reaction. Her excitement was contagious—it lit up the whole moment and deepened our connection.

If she had responded with indifference, I would have felt disappointed, as if I’d missed the mark. But instead, her joy in receiving made the act of giving all the more meaningful.

This is what I want to help more people realize: giving and receiving are not opposites; they’re partners. The beauty of giving is amplified when it’s met with heartfelt receiving.

Yes, it’s important to give generously, but giving can only happen if someone is willing to receive.

So, as we move through this season of giving, I challenge you to embrace receiving.

The next time someone gives you a gift—a compliment, a kind gesture, or something tangible—choose to receive it with joy.

Let their heart overflow, as my dad’s did … and as my friend let mine.