Communication Filters

As my theme of love and connection continued across various social media platforms, I offered tips and suggestions around communication filters.

When you seek to engage in clear and complete communication, it’s important to be aware of how you are filtering the messages.

When you are the speaker, it’s critical to recognize if you’re first filtering your message through fear, worry, self-doubt and other sabotaging inner chatter. When you use these filters, you’re likely NOT communicating your intended message. The risk is misunderstandings and unnecessary issues that often remain unresolved.

It’s equally important to consider how you are processing a message when you are the listener.

When you filter what someone else says through your fears, worries, self-doubts and other vulnerabilities, you likely are not hearing their intended message.

“Let me help you with that” can mean exactly that – I’d like to help you. No hidden agenda. Simply, “I’d like to help.”

Filtered through unhealthy inner chatter, it could be interpreted as, “(S)he thinks I’m incapable of doing this myself.”

See the difference?

This week, notice how you are filtering your outgoing and incoming messages.

Are your filters helping to promote clear and complete communication that minimize misunderstandings?

Your life and relationships are a reflection of your answer.

Is it time to change some filters?